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Forgiveness (宽恕) is often considered as an important decision to let go of feelings of anger towards someone who you believe has wronged you. However, while you may be quite generous in your ability to forgive others, you can be much harder on yourself. 1． .

Accept the result of your actions

Forgiving yourself is about more than just putting the past behind you and moving on.   2． . Facing what you have done or what has happened is the first step towards self-forgiveness. It’s also the hardest step. If you have been making excuses in order to make them seem acceptable, it is time to accept what you have done.

Treat yourself with kindness and compassion (同情)

Forgiving yourself requires facing your actions, but it is important to reach this with self-compassion. 3． . Try to be compassionate instead of being self-critical (自我批评的).

4．

Making a correction is an important part of forgiveness, even when the person you are forgiving is yourself. One way to move past your regret is to take action to correct your mistakes.

Learn from the experience

Forgiving yourself often requires finding a way to learn from the experience and make an active effort to do better in the future. To do this, you need to understand why you behave the way you did and why you feel sorry. What steps can you take to prevent the same behaviors again in the future? 5． , rather than feel sorry about those past mistakes.

It’s not unusual for kids to change friends, change schools, or change the way they dress as they’re growing up. But what about changing into a giant (巨大的) red panda? That’s the life of a 13-year-old girl named Mei Lee, the perfectly imperfect main character of Disney and Pixar’s new film, Turning Red.

Turning Red tells a coming-of-age story like no other. Mel is a Chinese Canadian girl who turns into a giant red panda anytime she experiences strong emotions, and must find a way to manage both her school life and home life in early 2000s Toronto, Canada. Mel tries to deal with hanging out with her three best friends, the boy band they like and her protective mother, who isn’t ready to let go of her growing daughter.

“Turning Red is inspired by the difficulties of growing up and trying to find out how to honor your parents, but also stay true to yourself,” said director Domee Shi. “For Mei Lee in the movie, before becoming the red panda, she thinks she has it all figured out, like we all did before we woke up one day and realized all of a sudden, we’re covered in body hair, our feelings are all over the place, and we’re hungry all the time.

Turning Red describes the complexities (难题) of mother-daughter relationships well. In fact, the real-life experiences of the film’s crew (摄制组成员) inspired several scenes. To make her crew share more about their childhood, Shi created a video at the office with her team. She encouraged everyone to look back to the past and bring out their embarrassing teen pictures and memories. It worked! “The crew started bringing in their old middle school yearbooks,” said producer Lindsey Collins. “They shared stories of their funny moments in middle school. Also, those of us who are parents shared our bad parenting moments. It’s meaningful. As a team, we just really tried to be real with one another about our daily failures and our daily successes.” It seems that however old you are, there is a little bit of Mei in all of us.

There are many kinds of friends. Some are always ______ you, but don’t understand you. Some say only a few words to you, but understand you. Many people will step in your life, but only ______ friends leave footprints.

I shall always recall (回忆) the autumn and the girl with the ______. She will always bring back the friendship between us. I know she will always be my best friend.

It was the golden season. I could see the ______ leaves floating (漂浮) with the cool wind. In such a season, I liked walking alone in the leaves, ______ to the sound of them.

Autumn is a harvest season and life is uninteresting. The boring days always get me ______. But one day, the sound of a violin flowed into my ears like a stream (小溪) flowing in the mountains. I was so surprised that I jumped to see what it was. A young girl, standing in the wind, was ______ in playing her violin.

I had ______ seen her before. The music was so nice that I listened quietly. Absorbed in the music, I didn’t know that I had been ______ there for so long but my existence (存在) did not seem to disturb her.

Leaves were still falling. Every day ______ she played the violin in the comer of the building, I went downstairs to watch her performance. I was the only listener. The autumn seemed no longer lonely and life became ______. Though we didn’t know each other, I thought we were already good friends.

Autumn was nearly over. One day, when I was listening carefully, the sound suddenly ______. To my surprise, the girl came over to me.

“You definitely like violin.” she said.

“Yes. And you play very well. Why did you stop?” I asked.

Suddenly, a ______ expression appeared on her face and I could feel something unusual. “I came here to see my grandmother, but now I must leave. I once played very badly. It was your listening every day that encouraged me.” she said.

“______ it was your playing that gave me a meaningful autumn,” I answered, “Let’s be friends.”

The girl smiled, and so did I.

I never heard her play again in my life. Only thick leaves were left behind. But I will always remember the fine ______ of the girl. She is like a dream—so short, so bright, like a shooting star giving off so much light that it makes the autumn beautiful.

One summer night, my friends and I stole into the Jordans’ backyard and started harvesting their sweet, juicy raspberries (树莓). We were enjoying every bite of the tasty berries _________ Mr Jordan came charging outside all of a sudden.

“What are you boys doing out here?” he yelled as my friends ran off _________ all directions. He attempted to catch one or two as they rushed past him, but they were too _________ for the older gentleman to catch. Within seconds, the boys _________ into the dark of the summer night, all except me. Speed was never my _________. I took the tongue-lashing (痛骂) that Mr. Jordan gave me as he marched me down the block to my house, where my mother took over and scolded me _________. My friends said they could hear every colorful word she spoke from the darkness of our backyard, where they had gathered to _________ their escape and to observe my capture.

They _________ me about it for days afterwards, while all I could do was complain about how _________ it was that I was the only one who had to pay the price. After about a week of this, I complained to my father about the inequality of the situation. Dad said, “You took raspberries without __________, and you get exactly the punishment you deserved.”

“But what about the other guys?” I asked. “They didn’t get punished at all!”

“That’s not my concern nor should it be yours,” Dad said. “You can’t __________ what happens to others. You can only __________ what happens to you. You made a bad choice that night, and you were punished for it.”

For the duration of the following years, I come to realize there is no __________ that life will treat us fairly. That’s why we can’t __________ comparing our lives with the lives of others. Like Dad said, that isn’t our __________.