学进去

I am an anxious traveller. I arrive at airports and train stations extra early. I double-check all of my documents, feel butterflies in my stomach until I’ve arrived where I’m going. Non-anxious people laugh at me for being nervous. I used to feel bad about it, seeing it as unreasonable, weak. Not anymore now. I’ve learned to respect my anxiety.

Recently, I was driving along a country road at the start of a long trip that would mainly be on a large highway. I began feeling that something could go wrong. What if I run out of petrol? I worried, even though I still had plenty. So when I saw a petrol station just before the entrance to the highway, I decided to fill up. Just in case. And that’s when I discovered that one of my front tyres was badly deflated (漏气的). If I’d taken no notice of my anxiety, the tyre would have blown on the highway. My planning ahead, even though it wasn’t necessary, saved me from a possible disaster.

A growing number of psychologists are getting the message out that anxiety and other negative feelings have a role to pay in our lives. Psychologist Dennis-Tiwary thinks our culture goes to extremes in demonizing (妖魔化) difficult emotions. She knows what it’s like to be trapped by anxiety. “I remember a period at work when there was a lot going on,” she says. Worries kept waking her up at 4 a.m. and it kept her from fang back to much-needed sleep.

Instead of trying to stop this unpleasant feeling, however, Dennis-Tiwary leaned into it. “If you sit with the anxiety, you have an opportunity to learn from it,” she says. “I usually write down two or three things I could do to solve it” The next day, she always s felt calmer.

But how do we manage anxiety before it takes control of us? According to Dennis-Tiwary, solutions include meditation (冥想), exercise, volunteering, and close contact with nature.