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We all love our parents: our parents love us too. Things, however, can still be wrong if both parents and children are not used to their ways of expressing love in the right way. With parent-children relationships, the importance of it is even more.
Different people have different ways of expressing love. The way someone expresses love is referred to as the language of love. In the book The Five Love Languages, the writer Gary Chapman states the five key love languages people use are: words of affirmation (肯定), quality time (spent together), receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch.
Being brought up in a different generation, it’s not surprising to know our language of love is likely different from our parents’. For example, my parents express their love by acts of service. They like to do things for me. For me, I express love by giving words of affirmation. I also use other ways to express my love, but communicating in the form of words is the primary method I use. I’m always telling them how much I love them.
This difference created a big rift between us at the beginning. I would try to communicate with them, but get nothing in return. In turn, they kept trying to do things like buying food for me and cooking for me, but I would be impatient of their preference for food. It wasn’t until I recognized their underlying intentions(意图) that things changed.
What do you think represents love to your parents? Rather than “speak” to your parents in your language of love, speak to them in their language of love. This means if their language of love is quality time together, then spend more time with them. If their language of love is receiving gifts, then buy a small gift that means something to both of you. If their language of love is words of affirmation, give them a compliment(称赞). They will be able to recognize your intentions more easily that way, and accept them more readily.
Don’t force them to accept a language they cannot recognize. An example would be to insist on hugging them when they’re clearly uncomfortable with the idea. While you may have the best intentions, you just force them to accept your beliefs.
Learn to “speak” to them in their language, not in your language. You’ll get much better and faster results this way.
1．According to the passage, parent-children relationships may be better if ________.| A．parents and children love each other |
| B．parents try to offer good services for children |
| C．parents can communicate in different languages |
| D．parents and children use the right way of expressing love |
| A．The writer and his parents like the same kind of food. |
| B．Children’s language of love is similar to their parents’. |
| C．The writer expressed love in speech more than in action. |
| D．Parents can easily accept the way their children show love. |
| A．built a close relationship |
| B．caused a serious disagreement |
| C．developed a long silence |
| D．cleared up a great misunderstanding |
| A．To suggest a way of showing love to parents. |
| B．To introduce a book and five key love languages. |
| C．To share his personal experience of expressing love. |
| D．To explain how to recognize parents’ language of love. |
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y = sin x， x∈R， y∈[–1，1]，周期为2π，函数图像以 x = (π/2) + kπ 为对称轴
y = arcsin x， x∈[–1，1]， y∈[–π/2，π/2]
sin x = 0 ←→ arcsin x = 0
sin x = 1/2 ←→ arcsin x = π/6
sin x = √2/2 ←→ arcsin x = π/4
sin x = 1 ←→ arcsin x = π/2
